Intentions VS Resolutions

After much thought, I decided verses making Resolutions for 2014, I would rather make Intentions.

If we literally look at the definition of the words themselves, we can see how this seems like a better choice.

Resolution:

: the act of finding an answer or solution to a conflict, problem, etc. : the act of resolving something

: an answer or solution to something

: the ability of a device to show an image clearly and with a lot of detail

Intention:

: the thing that you plan to do or achieve : an aim or purpose

I personally feel that an Intention, a plan...a Goal is something better to aim for.  Verses making a Resolution which I could ultimately fail at.

I actually had this discussion  with one of my close friends last night...and he actually brought up a good point. When I asked him if he was making a New Years Resolution,he said no. His Resolution was not to make Resolutions...which is an Oxymoronic...and entertaining.

He continued on saying, everyone is all about upgrades and improving, and having the best in things...why not have that or be that as a person. He didn't really need to go on much further.

Playing off of his idea tho, if you want to be a healthier you don't have to give up sweets or wheat or coffee. Or have to go to the gym 3 to 5 times a week..but rather just make the modifications in your routine, and if you are like me, research, plan and adjust.Verses, starting off right at the beginning of I CAN NOT have this or I HAVE TO DO this. If you do this then as my friend put it "Just setting yourself up to Fail"...and the pessimist in me response to that is Life does that to you anyways...why do it to yourself. 

For example, I love coffee...and during the holiday especially when I was at work...totally gave into my caffeine fiend and visited the Starbucks, Mad Coffee Fix, and 6 to 5 deli by my work for espresso coffee drinks...once maybe even two times a day (pending on my day and how tired I was, as well as how many gift cards I got). I need to cut back my intake off coffee...and espresso drinks are pretty pricey. Especially if you get them on a regular basis (3 to 5 times a week), which I'm trying to save money.

So my intention when it comes to caffeine and me, is I want to be nicer to my body and my wallet. I will still have my espresso coffee drink as a treat, but verses it several times a week. Perhaps just once a week...and if I need coffee...cause you know..that shit can be addicting and all. I will drink regular coffee...and considering work has a coffee pot and really an espresso machine, I just have to bring my own milk and supply my own coffee beans. I can then cover two birds with one stone...still have my coffee...while saving money. And all it requires is me making a little more conscious effort.

It's kinda crazy to think, that we prefer to have the instant gratification of something, verses putting in the effort or energy for it. I'm a huge culprit of it, but I'm slowly starting to realize. That you can save alot of money when you do it yourself...and you help improve your character.

Thus, I do have several intentions for 2014...but they are a daily thing. I wake up in the morning and make one intention, similar to how you do when you enter your space on the yoga mat. And as long as I make forth the effort for that intention for the day...until the next. I have done something good, and improved myself just a little bit more.

"None of us really changes over time. We only become more fully what we are"

Anne Rice The Vampire Lestat

Sometimes it's the little things with the people who make you laugh

Totally random blog entry, as I sit here with dinner ready waiting on the mister to get home from a long day at work (yup, they are working 12 hr shifts the rest of the week...I hope he at least gets Sunday off this weekend).

I had an (overall total time) of an hour conversation with a friend via HeyTell today (app on the Iphone/Itouch/Ipad...a push to talk application...so it's a fun version of Walkie Talkies). Anyways I chatted with my friend who is currently "deployed" (as he is at a different base here in Europe), and it got me thinking about my friendships this past year so far (2011) has brought me.

There have been a loss or two of friendships with the beginning of the year, but there have been more discoveries of amazing people who have touched my heart.

 It has been tough to actually make real friends as an adult, especially being within the military lifestyle (especially at this small base that I have been at). If you aren't in the military lifestyle, what I mean by this is...since home is where whatever branch of the military one's family is in sends them. You could be living in the states for say 5 years and BAM get paperwork you are moving to Japan for 3 years. Say good bye to all your friends, to go elsewhere and start all over again. Of course, there is the internet for emails...perhaps you will send a Christmas card..make the occasional phone call. But after awhile of moving, it's hard to keep track of people (since they tend to move as well). What could start off as a great friendship, could, if not worked at constantly, end in a distance memory.

Thus my current wonderful friendships have left me wondering what am I going to do without this person or that person when it's time to leave Germany. Thinking about saying goodbye sucks, I think it will be even tougher when it actually comes time to do it!!!

I like my friends...no...I lie. I love them...each and everyone of them. Whether it's the simple act of going over and hanging out bsing on the front porch smoking a cigarette. To lounging on the couch watching a movie, being bums together. I cherish those tiny small moments of friendship and connection.

I have been a huge camera whore this year, I take my camera everywhere I go nowadays. Especially if I know a bunch of us are going to hang out, cause you really never know what might happen. And having a photograph as proof that it this happened, or just horrible candid drunken pictures to laugh at later on (after they are posted on facebook).

**What most of my friends don't know is I have all the pictures from this year that are saved on my computer, as my screensaver. So that if I sit at my computer long enough not messing with it...I am greeted with pictures of good times. I'm not necessarily always in the pictures, but rather the photographer about half the time. And I like them as my screen saver cause I can look at them and laugh (not a ha ha laugh...but a he he laugh).

Like I said before, it's hard trying to find friends as an adult. But I feel I have found some really good ones who I will always love and have a place in my heart for....even when we are far away.

And that's all I have to say about that. e